When all else fails…


A) keep trying.

B) give up and think the worst.

C) turn to people you trust to help you through the situation.

D)  _____________ (you fill in the blank)

It’s been nine months and counting since I’ve been out of work. I fill my time with editing papers, helping to do research for professors, babysitting and whatever else I can find to do and earn some money. Do you know how hard it is to convince people you want to do menial tasks even though they look back and say you’re too skilled and overqualified? I wished I had taken a course on negotiation skills, I think they’d come in handy now.

I find also when you’re out of a job for awhile, your biggest critics are those closest to you, which means your family, guardians, or people with whom you live. For the past nine months, I’ve been hopeful of getting something, especially in my field of choice, but since those months have gone, nothing has shown up in my favor. Each interview I’ve been on has turned me down or they’ve selected another candidate and those defeats have made my family members more concerned. One of my aunts suggested I apply to school. To appease her, I decided to apply, but the process is on hold because I’m trying to find the money to pay the application fee. If it’s not one thing, it’s something else, my mom usually says.

So far, they’ve witnessed my strong desire to pursue opened positions and that has proven to them somewhat of my resilience to keep going. Because of that attitude, I have received much support and encouragement, and it really has inspired me to keep trying, though the back up plan is to attend school. 

As luck would have it, I was invited last week for an interview with a well-known company in the field of my interest. From the moment I walked in the door, I just had a pleasant feeling that overcame me. At first, I was nervous because the building was fairly grandiose and looked intimidating on the outside, but my nerves were calmed upon meeting the front desk person. He had a friendly demeanor and greeted me with such a smile, I didn’t think those ever existed. I was to wait for the interviewer and while I stood by the desk, the front desk person and I spoke briefly. I learned he had worked with the company for 15 years and says he enjoys the place because it’s a good place to be. Then the interviewer appears to escort me.

As I walked with the interviewer into the board room, she was so pleasant and conversational, I almost forgot I was only there for an interview. It even helped that the board room overlooked not skyscrapers or tall buildings, but lush green trees spread as far as the eye could see. “I could get used to this,” I mumbled. Then the interview began. It started from 10:30 a.m. and ended till noon. As I was leaving, I saw the front desk personnel again and he asked if he’d see me again (he knew I just came from an interview). I simply smiled back and said, “I hope so.” As soon as I got home that day, I drafted an e-mail thank you note to the interviewer and clicked “send”. Now, the waiting began.

It’s the second week, and I’m supposed to hear back from the company (whether or not I made it for a second interview). You’d think I’d be calm and collected at this time, but my nerves are shot. I keep flashbacking to the interview and thinking negatively about what I did wrong. Of course that doesn’t help me feel any better. Though, as I wait I ponder the possibility of working with the company at the same time. The pros: the company is 15 minutes away from me, the people are friendly, it’s a job I am definitely interested in and capable of doing, and I could seek opportunities for growth.

Times are hard, but I figure I can’t get bogged down by defeat so easily. It would be nice to know I got the job and things moved on from there, and if not, well, that’s another blog piece. In the meantime, I’ve discovered a knack for editing and have been part of some great success stories. My cousin got a full-time teaching job as a result of me prepping her for an interview and tweaking her resume, and recently I heard of a fellow professional who’d gotten a part-time job that he insists I helped him get. (All I did was help clean up his resume and cover letter and gave him tips on interviewing.) It was their turn and now I hope it’s mine. I haven’t given up on my dream all this time, though. I feel like I’m almost there. These past few months have taught me more about myself than before and I’ve learned many lessons I hope I can provide for someone else.

I’m reading a book by Joel Osteen, called “It’s Your Time” and boy do I ever feel it is. (I encourage you or anyone you know who is going through a hard time in their life to read this book.) I’ve come so far, especially in faith, it seems hard to give up everything. I’ll update you on the status of my search and ask for your continued thoughts and prayers. So, when all else fails, I keep trying, no matter how long or how much effort it takes for me to get there, I keep trying. Do you have a story to share about a hard time in your life and how you overcame it? I’d love to hear.

6 comments

  1. Dionne · October 1, 2010

    Good luck, Kimi!!!!
    I do hope you get called in for that second interview/ the job!!!
    Most of my interviews are like that- nice and conversational- but I always seem to lack one thing: experience.
    So, I laud you for keeping yourself busy and doing “menial tasks”, because, guess what, you are building up a broad base of experience!!!
    Keep at it my girl..
    And. “If all else fails: D) Scream, and get right back into trying!

    • faithlooksup · October 7, 2010

      D, thanks for your encouragement. It gives me hope. I just pray this setback is a setup for a comeback🙂.

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    • faithlooksup · October 3, 2010

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  3. Slamdunk · October 4, 2010

    Sorry I am late on this, but my prayers are with you during this time. The waiting can be very difficult–I hope things work out for you soon.

    • faithlooksup · October 4, 2010

      Thanks, Slam Dunk. Waiting, to me, is the scariest part during the interview process, but we’ll see how things turn out. Your prayers are truly needed. Blessings.

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